Change Your Putting Philosophy So You Can Stay in the Present, the Zone, and Hole More Putts

If you have read more than one article on playing your best then you will have heard time and time again about forgetting about results and staying in the present. Doing it in real play, especially when you are emotionally tied in with the result is not all that easy to do. One of the worst emotions you can be tied to with a result is humiliation. If you are worried about missing a short one or three stabbing from 20ft and losing the hole or match, humiliating yourself in the process, then you are placing enormous pressure to perform on yourself. No wonder we struggle.

Forget the results is the advice and it makes perfect sense as I am sure you agree. After all we do perform better if we are not scared of messing up. There is also a lot of advice about how to stay in the present but it is about finding the right thoughts and processes that suit you as an individual. Not all the techniques will work all the time for all the people, kind of thing!

Now I do not know if this particular thought process and philosophy is going to work really well for you but here is something you can try and if you give it a serious go for a few weeks and months, it might just improve your putting fantastically. Here it is and remember that this is just a model that may work for you.

Become fascinated by the personal challenge of every putt. Forget about the game or match, let it go and allow the most important thing about your putting to become a game that you play with yourself. A game which you play out of interest to see what happens. The philosophy you want to have with this is that there is no score on the putt. The putt is not worth one shot. It is worth nothing and the only reason you are going to make this putt is to see how good your read of the line and break was and how good you “Just Let it Go” and trusted.

Imagine that you are on a practice green and just trying to see if you can get a putt to do what you think it should. Just a little practice challenge where there is no shot on the line. All you are going to do is imagine the putt and then send the ball on its way and see out of interest what happens.

Look at it from behind the ball and then walk to the other side and look at it from there. Stand side on to your putt on the low side of the hole and visualise your putt going along a line into the hole. Stand behind your putt again and visualise it running along a line and going into the hole and just trust your unconscious mind to come up with the line and pace. DO NOT SECOND GUESS ANYTHING.

Now just go through your setup routine, look at the hole one last time and then stroke the putt.

As you putt try to notice the back of the ball being struck by your putter and hold the image of your target in your mind, count to 3 seconds before looking sideways to see your putt rolling. Now just notice with interest how closely it is doing what you imagined it was going to do. No emotions, no good or bad, just compare the actual putt with what you visualised it doing. You are going to become completely absorbed at putting in order to see how close your actual putt is compared to what your instincts decided.

Putting is: Make an instinctive decision. Roll the putt without trying. Compare the real putt with the visualised putt. Learn and forget it. Repeat the process. Remember that there is no score. The putt is not worth 1 shot, it is simply an act of sending a ball from point A to point B and accepting the personal challenge to see if you can read the break and get the ball to do what you imagined.

In order for this particular putting system to show its magic and work you must treat it as a philosophy that each putt is just a personal challenge to see how good you can read a putt and then let it go. There is no such thing as a good putt or a bad putt; there is just a movement of the ball from one point to another that you can compare with your original decision. If it was a good comparison store it and congratulate yourself and if the actual putt was not the same as you imagined then just learn from it and forget it.

Now I do not know if this putting philosophy is going to work for you and improve your putting significantly, or just let you play with more freedom from results, but I hope you are one of those golfers who benefit significantly. By all means adjust some of the aspects so it fits you better and you can get out of results and just take each putt as a personal and interesting challenge.

Where Do You Live – Past, Present, Or Future?

What does your past have in common with Jimmy Hoffa? They are both dead!

I have a dear friend who is agonizing over a decision he made several weeks ago. He had to fire someone. It was a good decision, and one that was actually necessary to preserve his own integrity in his business. The person was being paid a high salary, and with that comes responsibility for leadership and willingness to learn new things (especially since it was a position in information technology.) But this person refused to learn anything new. He wanted to show up every day and do the same things he always did. He also had to be spoon-fed assignments. While he was supposed to be my friend’s backup, he showed no leadership potential nor desire to develop it. And, he was using company time to do his side job.

So why is my friend suffering over this? He is a good person, and he thinks he hurt the person he fired. The truth is, he did this guy a favor by giving him a wake-up call. But my real point is this:

What possible benefit do we get from reliving the past? None! After we accept any lesson we needed to learn, it is time to move on. Driving with your eyes on the rear view mirror is dangerous!

That being said, we need a healthy balance between:

Visualizing our future
Living in the present, to take action
In “Think And Grow Rich” Napoleon Hill’s Self Confidence Formula challenges you to spend 30 minutes daily thinking about the person you want to become. But he also says to transform that picture into reality through practical service and to spend 10 minutes daily to develop the factors named in his “The Law of Success” book. One of the principles he teaches is that you need definite plans and you need to put them into action. But without the visualization of where you are trying to go, “any road will do.”

I personally believe some of us spend too much time in the past because we are afraid to move forward. We think if we keep going over what already happened, the success formula for the future will become evident. But it doesn’t work that way. We need to decide where we want to go, and let the Universe show the way.

Setting forth bold intentions and burning the bridges of escape, as Mr. Hill teaches, is very scary! And yet he also teaches us that temporary defeat is to be expected and accepted. There is no reason to fear temporary defeat, as long as it is temporary. The point is to persist and never give up on that burning desire you create in your mind.

Spend just enough time in the future to know what it looks like, and reflect on it daily. But don’t spend all day visualizing! Once the picture is clear each day, live in the present and use all of your senses to get the messages the Universe sends you about the correct actions to take.

And remember, as Mr. Hill teaches, “Through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of realizing it.”

Salary Negotiation – 7 Tips on How to Express Yourself and Present Your Case

1. Know your content.

Simply put, be well-prepared! It is the mastery of your subject matter which gets you through any speaking engagement with flying colours.

When you meet to negotiate a salary increase, it is public speaking in smaller quarters like an office or a conference room, but it is no less important. In fact, it is very crucial to you because the improvement of your finances and standard of living rest on it.

2. Start on the high side.

You can never go wrong with a strong beginning. Your choice of words and the fluency with which you express your initial thoughts set the tone for the meeting.

Make a good first impression! The best way to start on the positive side would be to thank all of those present for the privilege of their time.

3. Speak with passion.

When you speak with passion, it should spring not from overconfidence and aggressiveness but rather from your own personal pride and honour to be part of this meeting. Passion is as simple as saying what you believe and believing in what you say.

But no matter how passionate the discussion gets, keep your voice warm and modulated and your temper low and even.

4. Be specific.

Go straight to the point. Don’t waste anyone’s time by talking in a useless, roundabout manner. It only implies that you don’t know what you’re going to say next.

Since you know your content, talk on its specific points and highlights. If you don’t trust your memory, be prepared with a small notepad or cue card to guide you.

5. Listen carefully.

Once you’ve been heard, it’s your turn to stop talking and start listening. Listen carefully to what your boss and officers have to say.

Give them your full attention! Be quick to pick up and take your cue from open-ended questions which require a spontaneous answer. Give critical questions some thought before you verbalize a good reply.

6. Keep an open mind.

Always let intellect and reason prevail over your emotions. If you lay all your needs and wants in one sitting, you leave yourself vulnerable.

Besides, the more open your mind is, the stronger your heart will be.

7. Prepare for objections.

Have the heart to face objections, and do not immediately worry or panic. There is no point in getting all defensive. It is but natural for your superiors to examine and question your request, because this is how they gauge how driven yet composed you are.

Your best defence to any resistance on your request for a salary increase would be to finish off on the right note. Be courteous and appreciative of the time and opportunity given.

When you present your case for a salary increase, you must put your best foot forward! To maintain the meeting all throughout, start with a strong beginning, fill the discussion with good content, and end with a clean finish.