The Six Vital Skills Needed When Negotiating

In your everyday life, you may find that your negotiating skills are frequently being used and called upon. In order for you to do this effectively, you’ll need to have these six skills under your belt. These negotiating methods will help you to better understand the process more in depth, with hopes that whenever you decide to use these negotiating techniques, whether you’re negotiating your salary for a new job offer or requesting a pay raise from your current employer, you’ll get what you want.

Here are the six vital skills needed when negotiating:

1. Preparation. Preparation is the foundation to negotiating successfully. Keep in mind that, you could never be too overly prepared. When you undertake any negotiation, you’ll need to give special attention to these three areas: yourself, the other person, and the market.

To prepare for yourself means, knowing who you are and what you want out of life. And to do this, you’ll have to spend some time reflecting and planning. Once you have a clear plan and understanding of the direction you want to take, this will help to build up your confidence as you go into your negotiation. And because you’ve taken the time to examine what you want, it’s now time to go forward and learn about the other person involved in the negotiating process.

Because there is usually someone else involved when negotiating, you’ll have to do your homework and research what the other person is all about. Once you become familiar with the other person you’re speaking with during the negotiations, you’ll have the sense of comfort and ease as you begin negotiating.

The final part of your preparation stage is knowing the market. It’s extremely important that you are aware of and have some good background information on your market.

2. Set limitations and goals. Set your goals by writing down what you want to achieve from the negotiation. Then, once you have your goals put in place, it’s now time to put limitations on them. Putting limitations on your goals simply means asking yourself, at what point am I willing to walk away from the deal and close it somewhere else?

3. Listen. Learning to listen is one of the most important skills to have during your negotiations. Because the act of listening attentively will give you the opportunity to hear and receive some valuable information you need to make the right decisions when negotiating.

4. Communicate clearly. To communicate clearly, you’ll have to make sure that your body language, tone of voice, actions, and words all say the same thing and send the identical message. Here, it’s imperative that your actions and words line up with one another.

5. Take a break and pause for a moment. At any time, if you ever feel as though the negotiations are heating up, and you’re emotions are running high, it’s at this instant, you could take a break and pause for a moment. This moment of silence will probably help stop you from saying something you really did not mean during your negotiations.

6. Close the deal. Closing the deal is the end of the negotiating process, and it is where everything should come to a halt. It’s also where the two sides come together in mutual agreement.

So, the next time you have to go through your own negotiation process, keep these six vital skills needed when negotiating in mind.

Purchasing Presents Online

When it’s a loved one’s birthday everyone racks their brains in hope of a great gift idea. It can be difficult to purchase a great gift for people as many people buy anything they desire so there is nothing to purchase them that they have desired for some time. The following article has been written to help identify which present is most suitable to your loved one.

If there is a limited options to what to purchase for your loved one why not try a collectible item. Not only does this mean they can continue to collect them if they so wish but it is also possible worth money in the future. With collectible items you can sell them many years later for a lot of money. This is nice for younger family members and you are giving them money to use in the future. Personalised items are also a great options for people who purchase everything they want. Not only does it show thought but everyone likes a personalised gifts. These companies can easily be found online by using a search engine. They will often incorporate the cost of personalising the item within the price.

If neither of these ideas is suitable people often like children’s presents. However silly it sounds people often love have children’s gadgets or games to play with and it’s a great novelty gift. Adoption packs are also a great idea. People like to feel as though they are helping the environments, wildlife or third wild countries. This is great for people who have everything already. Don’t forget that anything you purchase should be purchased from a reportable site and you should keep the receipt or payment confirmation so that you are able to send the item back if it is not suitable.

Offline Porn Use on an Office Computer – The Presentation

Most people using company computers for work keep away from accessing pornography on the web. They understand that IT departments can watch what you’re doing online as easy as they can see the history of what you’ve done online. But what about the person who has a laptop, and they’re traveling with it for a week or a few days, and they decide they want to take along a thumb drive with porn they’ve downloaded from their home computer, or maybe they decide at some point to view a pornographic DVD on their computer in their hotel. I actually worked with a guy who was doing just that. He knew that even if he deleted the history of the web browser, it wasn’t safe to surf porn sites on the company computer, because the porn site information is stored in various locations, in different folders, throughout the hard drive. Not to mention what the porn sites can put onto your computer, something that can turn up at any time, much to your embarrassment.

What this guy was doing was accessing porn sites at home on an older desktop computer. He would download images and movies from porn sites to CDs and portable hard drives. Then, when he would travel, he would take his company laptop and simply access pornography that he’d already saved by using the CDs, DVDs, or portable drives with his company laptop.

The night before a presentation to clients, he spent two and half hours viewing pornography on his laptop. He put off much of his preparation, thinking he would finish with the porn quickly, then prepare for the presentation. But minutes turned to hours, and before he knew it, he was exhausted and it was one in the morning. He crammed what he could for the presentation, then got a few hours of sleep before he had to get up at six. When he got to the presentation at 7:30, he was very tired and had trouble getting alert. He drank as much coffee as he could, then set up his computer for the presentation as the people filed in, chatted, drank coffee, and eventually sat down. His laptop was hooked up to a projector so that the room could view his presentation as he talked. The projector turned on and he looked at it to operate his computer. He clicked the Start bar and opened his Recent Documents folder to find the presentation. As he scanned the folder for the name of the presentation, he noticed, along with that presentation, were eleven file names of the porn he’d been viewing the night before. The file names for the photos and movies were blatantly sexual. Heart in his throat, he jumbled to exit the Recent Documents folder, and looked around to see who’d has seen him open it. Most people were talking, but three or four had been looking at the screen. Had they seen the file names? Now, his confidence was shot, and he was embarrassed. His face turned red, and he was not even sure if anyone had seen or read the file names. As a result of all of this and his lack of sleep, his presentation went terribly. He had trouble focusing on the flow of what he had to say, and stumbled over basic questions.

And yet, what this man found was that this situation was happening time and again. He figured out quickly to delete all the files in his Recent Documents folder, but he still procrastinated preparing for meeting clients by viewing porn for hours on end. Eventually, this behavior eroded his ability to do his job. His confidence began to buckle over time, in everyday situations. He would blush for no reason, He would stammer where before he could soar through discussions with clients. Where he was strong, now he was weak. And the weaker he became, the more he depended on viewing pornography to numb his feelings of inadequacy.

In addition, at some point a member of the IT department approached him quietly and told him that they had seen evidence of pornography on his computer. Files he’s missed, things he’d forgotten or didn’t even know about, that he should have scrubbed, but that turned up easily when IT people were working on his computer. And while IT was discrete, the incident further eroded this man’s confidence, and he eventually had to quit his job. He hoped that if he went somewhere new, with all new people, that he could start again, and that he wouldn’t use porn and he would get a fresh start. Except that when he got that next job, and met those new clients, and worked with the new co-workers, he found himself in the same boat in less than four months.

That’s how the damage of addiction, and the damage or pornography works. Slowly. Over time. Chipping away at a person’s success, replacing it with fear, insecurity, and failure. If you find yourself in this position, take action now to build up your resistance to porn, while you increase your ability to succeed, and your ability to deal with challenging situations. The slippery slope to porn addiction is easy; climbing out and building up your inner capability is more difficult, but it pays off exponentially more. Like anything, if you follow a simple process, you’re much more likely to attain your goals.